How to Make People Like You In…..? (yes you read it right) 4 Seconds or less!

Within seconds of meeting you, people are already making judgments about your personality.

Those assessments can influence whether they want to hire you, date you, or be your friend.

So you’ll want to do everything you can to make the best impression possible — before it’s too late.

To help you out on that front, I checked out “How to Make People Like You in 90 Seconds or Less” by speaker and author Nicholas Boothman. The book highlights a key strategy for ingratiating yourself with your conversation partner while greeting them.

The best part? The whole process takes just four seconds. Read on to find out how to become instantly likable.

1. Be Open

Boothman says you’ll want to open both your body and your attitude.

In terms of your body language, Boothman says you should aim your heart directly at the person you’re meeting. Don’t cover your heart with your hands or your arms. And if you’re wearing a jacket, unbutton it beforehand.

It’s equally important to cultivate a positive attitude. While you’re greeting the person, Boothman says you should feel and be aware of that positivity.

2. Make Eye Contact


Boothman says you should be the one to initiate eye contact, and let your eyes reflect your positive attitude.

If you feel uncomfortable making eye contact, he suggests a strategy for getting used to it: When you’re watching TV, note the eye color of the people on camera and say the name of the color in your head. The next day, do the same thing with every person you meet.

Just make sure to look away at some point — as Carol Kinsey Goman writes on Forbes, too much eye contact can feel rude or intimidating for the other person.

3. Beam


Boothman advises being the first one to smile. You’ll send the message that you’re sincere.

Research also suggests that smiling when you meet someone in a happy context is a useful way to get them to remember you.

4. Say “hello”


Whether you say “hi,” “hey,” or “hello,” or use another salutation, you should sound delighted to be making this person’s acquaintance. 

Next, you’ll want to extend your hand. Make sure to give a firm handshake, which generally creates a more positive impression.

When the person you’re meeting gives his or her name, try to repeat it a few times. For example, you might say, “Sara. Nice to meet you, Sara!”

If you’re meeting multiple people and can’t shake everyone’s hand at once, Boothman says it’s possible to conduct a “hands-free” handshake. Do everything you’d normally do while shaking someone’s hand — point your heart in their direction, say hello, and smile — but don’t extend your hand.

5. Lean In

There’s no need to fall over into the person you’re meeting.

Boothman suggests an “almost imperceptible forward tilt” to show that you’re open to and interested in what the person has to say.

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8 Misconceptions About Strong Women


Confident women are amazing, brave, independent, strong and assertive. They know what they want and get it by all means. Before judging confident women, remember these 8 misconceptions about strong girls.

1. They are not sensitive


Many believe confident women are totally selfish and self-centered. In fact, confident women have weak moments too. They can be as sensitive as any other person can be.

2. They don’t like compliments


Any woman – be she strong or weak – loves praises and compliments. Confident women want to be praised and they deserve beautiful words.

3. They know absolutely everything


Yes, confident women are smart and intelligent but they there are something they don’t know about. No matter how hard you try, you can’t know everything. Confident women are not afraid to accept their mistakes. They learn from them and don’t make them twice. Reading is one of their best hobbies but it doesn’t mean they are nerds. They are fun and interesting to hang out with.

4. They’re not afraid of anything


Fear doesn’t choose whom to strike. It strikes everyone. Confident women dread to become weak or broken. When a confident woman faces a challenge or a failure, though, she becomes stronger and her faith helps her move mountains and become more successful.

5. They don’t care about other people’s opinions


There’s a difference between worrying about what others will think or say about you and paying attention to other people’s opinions. Confident women do whatever they want to do because they don’t let others prevent them from being who they are. Girls with weak willpower, on the contrary, let others control their actions.

6. They never get hurt


Strong women get hurt too. They feel pain – they are not cold. They all have kind hearts. Whether it’s someone’s death, a breakup or a discharge, they feel it all. They feel lost, frustrated, and depressed.

7. They can’t love


Even though strong women have trouble expressing their true feelings, they can love. They love animals, people, nature and job. They love life. They deserve to be loved. Instead of moaning and judging, boost your own confidence.

8. They are self absorbed


Just because confident women walk with their heads high and believe in their strength and abilities doesn’t mean they are self-absorbed. Strong women respect others and try to help and inspire them to live a better life.